Freedom of responsibility is the key, not Freedom from…



Anxiety is the space or state between freedom and responsibility. If we run from our responsibilities we are not free, we are doomed. For sure our conscience and quilt will catch up to us and pull and drag us down.

So, we must be who we are and do what we must yet manage the difficulty. That feeling that causes us stress and puts us on high alert, causing us to focus on what we cannot change in that moment. What we can change is how we think and feel about that responsibility that is coming up, on the horizon, that looms over us and dooms us to worry and sleepless nights.

When we have the freedom to choose, what we do and how we act the choice is always ours. We can let it affect our health, our behavior, our attention, and intention or we can put things in their proper perspective and reframe our way of thinking and do what we can with what we have at the moment to do our best.

When we are thinking about the future in a worrisome negative light, we end up retroactively start to regret the past. Think about it? Don’t we get sucked into the future scenarios that haven’t even happened yet and then start to turn them around and then regret something we did, say, or think that led us to the situation that we are contemplating.

When we think about the future we end us regretting the past. Usually, I believe this is the case. Personally, when I consider something troublesome that I must do, I most often think – How did I let this happen. Take credit debt for instance. If the habit of overspending money that is not yours and that you must pay back at a high rate of interest is an issue that you have to take responsibility for, you regret your overspending and a bad habit of being a shop acholic.

If we can merge our inherent freedom with our responsibility, then that space or state of the anguish of future events disappear. Sounds impossible. How can I do that? One may ask? Well, if we are forever in the moment and practice good habits and are mindful of who we are, and our environment and our behavior, we can be and take responsibility for all things in the moment and achieve equanimity. Which is dealing with all things in a calm and balanced way.

It’s possible but we must do the work. Take responsibility for all aspects of our life, show up, and do the work necessary to achieve peace and tranquility and live a virtue-driven life in this loud and at times chaotic world.




And, the perils of self-pity.


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If we allow ourselves to get run down and deplete our vital life force we feel empty. We are more prone to lose confidence and doubt our resolve. I know this for a fact because when I am feeling run down, overtired, or even just hungry, I want to dump everything and change direction.

When this happens, it is just a hop and skip and jump away from worrying about the future. I lose focus and direction. I get stressed and I start to be concerned that I will never get anything done.

Full catastrophe mode is not far behind and a sense of hopelessness may enter the picture and obscure any thought of growth, grit, gains or glory. Then it is just a stone’s throw away from self-pity. A lapse in confidence and we see ourselves circling the drain into oblivion.

That is why mindset and mindfulness and vigilance is so important. Anxiety is that place or space between freedom and responsibility. If we think about the future we end up regretting the past. It’s a vicious circle, and as we cycle through these fruitless exercises we run through our reserves of willpower and resilience.

If can stay present and realize we have the freedom we desire at any given moment via free will to choose how we think, feel and will what we desire. We must remember that the multiplicity of environments and people and experiences that we encounter each day will challenge us and will demand that we rise to meet them.

It is up to us to remain full of positive thoughts about the now and not to feel overwhelmed and to show up not give up when we feel our tank start to empty. We need to practice self-care because if we don’t take care of our own needs and energy we cannot bring the light, love, and brilliance to our family, friends and team members.

Recently, I am letting the Universe take the wheel. I don’t pull or push too hard and I yield if the energy is not right and I trust my intuition and I practice gratitude even for the struggle and forgive myself daily for my shortcomings and I constantly check my attitude to see if it needs adjusting.

I work to stay energized and free of judgment and keep my mind, heart, and self-open to all possibilities because I don’t want to be a depleted, hallow, whiny underachiever.