Civility is the art and act of caring for others.


 Why when we have so much, we decry we don’t have enough? When what should be a given has such an excessive cost? When I speak of cost – I mean our Soul, our dignity, and self-respect.

There is so much vitriol in our discourse. When I say a given – I mean our collective Humanity. I really struggle with all this negativity.

If we are ever going to reach our end point of evolution and maturity as a race, we really need to fall back and assess our priorities. If we don’t something as simple as a tweet or an off-handed comment meant to invigorate someone’s political base could end this human experiment.

When we cannot sleep at night and have nightmares and worry about our children’s future and we silently scream into our pillow or into the darkness, it is time to evaluate what it is we want from life. Do we want to be happy or right or safe or content, or grow and heal?

Seriously, it appears greed by the powerful faceless super wealthy, the donor class and shareholders take precedence over the well-being of everyone.

The wrecking ball of destruction meant to dissemble unions, fair trade, equitable pay rates and support for safe and faithful regulations have been accepted behavior by our so-called leaders.

The Animus toward the populace and the citizenry can not continue. The center will not hold. It is spinning out of control and wobbling in fits of centrifugal chaos for the last forty years, but we have been so concerned with the what have you done for me lately mentality that we slipped into a coma of our own making.

Wake up! Stand Up! Rise Up and Shine your true light of love and compassion. Put aside your petty grievances to banish the shadow within to banish and vanquish the shadow projected into our non-civil discourse, meet in the middle and join hands, and hearts and souls and let us move forward into and onto better days and better relationships with ourselves and each other


Acceptance: Work with what you have,

Or, pay the price!



The Stoic principle that tells us – Recognize what is under your control and what isn’t under your control.  Don’t worry about what isn’t under your control – is acceptance.  It is not giving in or rolling over, but accepting what is.  To not accept what is, is pure ignorance.

Not accepting what is, is being closed off.  Accepting the circumstances and working within the reality that we find ourselves in creates opportunities and novelty where we can challenge ourselves and do to learn new things so that we may grow and expand in consciousness and in being.

If I never accepted anything, I would always be recapitulating what I already knew and understood.  By accepting the unknown, or what is, a tension is created, a spark of inspiration awaits me where I am still in uncertainty and still in the possibilities.

I accept myself for who I am.  I accept you for who you are.  I accept that there is the pain in my past, present, and future, but I do not accept suffering, because there at the moment there is a choice.  I accept pain, death, uncertainty, and imperfection.  But, where there is a choice to do, act, behave better, I choose to accept that I can do, act, and behave better.

To love myself, I have to accept myself for who I am.  But, I can accept or choose to try, think, and rise above what I can accept.  To not accept myself or you for who I and you are, is to turn away from the truth, for the truth can be denied, but that does not mean that the truth is not the truth.

To accept hatred, violence, indignation is to accept a lie.  Evil is a distortion of the truth and when we accept evil into our hearts it changes our minds, our character and this distorts how we act, think, speak and behave.  Then we turn away from the truth.  The truth is the truth.  An opinion, a belief, conviction, these are not the truth.  The truth does not sit on a scale or have many shades or variants.

The truth is a reality that has no opposite, the only reality there is.  There are no little white truths.  The truth is a constant it is either the truth or it is not.  A lie is not the opposite of the truth.  It is like the universe, it is ever expanding and if you cannot realize the truth you may think that is contracting, but it is you trying to objectify or embrace what is and only what is… the truth.

If we are able to open our hearts and minds then we would be free to accept almost anything.  But, we hold so damn tight to what we think is right, with all of our might we cannot even begin to accept a viable alternative, let alone a radical new approach.  Mired in our mediocrity, we slog along with our blinders on.

Will the truth set you free?  We don’t know if we do not strive earnestly towards such a wonderful goal.  The road to truth has many barriers.  The most challenging to remove is our self.  Often times we stand in our own way, blocking the possibility of change and growth.

Accept acceptance and set aside conventional thinking, stick your head in the box out of the box, it does not matter empirically what matters is that we don’t cut ourselves off to what might be – reevaluation, revision, resolution, and more than anything receptivity – the lost art of trying something on for size, running it up a flag pole and taking it for a test drive.  How do we know until we try?

So many of us are stuck in our ways and rage against the dying of the light; but how do we know what awaits us in the far reaches of the darkness unless we have the courage to take that first step and try.

Question: What if your trusted family Doctor told you that you had three months to live, could you accept it as the Truth, or would you get a second opinion and refuse the diagnosis even if there was irrefutable evidence and proof that you will not survive the inevitable?


True1:  I would accept the diagnosis and accept and embrace the fact I am mortal and be grateful for the days I had and make my peace with what is.

 True2:  I will fight whatever it is and I refuse to lay down without a fight, even though I AM a devout believer and I know that heaven awaits me with all its glory.









Ends at the Dawn of Awareness.



Lately, I have been really struggling with being present. A dark cloud had descended. A cloud of uncertainty and change. These are both usually both my optimum situations. I am most creative when things are in flux and at times chaotic. No challenge no change.

But, because it involves my responsibility and my freedom it invariably causes stress. Is it manageable? Yes, if I apply the appropriate thinking, feeling and exhort the required willing. It will all work itself out. I pride myself on being a large cat who always lands on his feet.

However, If I am not diligent and vigilant, I could fall into old patterns, habits, and tendencies and I will fall short, miss the mark, and have to work that much harder under worse circumstances to right the ship and get back to ground zero.

So, when things seem darkest it is time to turn up the heat, show up and shine, and don’t let your shadow side move in your way and block the light of creativity, identity, and purpose. The mission does not stop because the specter of difficulty looms large on the horizon. No, that is when you assert maximum effort and rise to meet the challenge.

If something seems familiar and you know the previous outcome, change your game, the game. Do not let something like a dreadful day, reversal of fortune bring you low or take you down. These are lessons. Learn from them. I spent two decades contemplating suicide every day all day. I found a reason. That reason is I was not done yet.

The sun is shining somewhere. When the weight of the world and the darkest of the darkest night of the soul is trying you. Try something new. Depression is anger turned inwards, self-loathing. We think of taking our life because we do not see anything ever changing. My cousin took his life. Another dropped off the planet. Everybody we know knows someone who just could not take it any longer.

The darkness robs us of the light. I recently went into my shadow self to do some work on myself, to do some research, to root around for something I left behind. It’s there, I know it is. But, I stayed too long and had trouble getting out. Then my physiology began to change. The old triggers were pulled and switches flipped. I was in the dark, alone.

It’s oppressive in there. I felt empty. I thought of ending it, the pull was so strong. Then I remembered. Wait… I am not done yet. I have not done what I was sent here to do. There is work that needs to be done. Work only I can do.

So enough of the poor me bullshit. Sally has sucked it up. I have put on my big boy pants. I have expressed gratitude, changed my attitude, forgiven myself, and I feel more than enough.

It has dawned on me that, If I don’t do it now, no one else will. This crazy diamond is going to shine on and work the magic, inspire greatness and heal and transform all those I encounter.