Lose your Temper, Lose your Edge

There is an old saying that states that: “Those, whom the gods would destroy, they first make angry.”

Anger is depression, fear and frustration turned outward.  They say that violence is an act of an exhausted mind; if that is true my mind has been weary and fatigued at times.  Violence is not always physical mind you; a war of words can do as much damage, if not more at times.   After I lose my temper I have never felt energized, short of breath yes; but never energized; if anything I have felt drained, and forlorn.

When you lose your temper, you have lost your compassion of thought.  You have passed judgment on someone and have condemned them to wrath.   Then you put them in a prison of separation and become their jailer.  A Course in Miracles says: “A jailer is not free, for he is bond together with his prisoner.”  Also that when we: “Release instead of bind, for thus are you made free.  The way is simple.  Every time you feel a stab of anger, realize you hold a sword above your head.  And it will fall or be averted as you choose to be condemned or free.”

In Metallurgy Temper is the hardness of metal: the degree of hardness of a metal.  So, if you lose your temper your mettle is affected.

Being angry can affect your health and make you sick.  I have in recent years learned to take care of myself by getting enough sleep, proper nutrition, not overextending myself, and having a Positive Mental Attitude.  So, when things start going south, I am aware of the change of direction, I check in with how I am feeling emotionally, physically, spiritually, take a breath, and raise my energy to a higher frequency by thinking of the best case scenario, and envision the situation coming to a positive resolution.

So don’t lose your temper, and you won’t lose your edge, and you will stay sharp, strong and to the point.  The point is to treat yourself and your fellow man with love and compassion and to temper, each moment with awareness and gratitude for all we have is the Sacred Now.











When you feel like you have hit rock bottom and it feels like you’re in the gutter there is no place left to go but up. Everything has its upside. If you stretch and reach for the light and there is nothing but green grass all around you. Right?

When you are in a rut everything is the same. If there is a glimmer of hope you may not see it because you have your blinders on. We see through a myopic lens that is dirty and out of focus. Been there done that is our battle cry. We wave the white flag of surrender and collapse into a stupor. We relapse into Eeyore and ask – “Why bother?”

What is needed to get out of that hole, the trench, the rut, is a vision. We need to look at things differently. We need to see the novelty in the same old, same old, and find something new, turn it around and flip it. Novelty gets the old brain chemistry churning and infuses us with energy. Energy to lift our heads up, enliven our hearts and compel us to accept the old and make something new. Reduce. Reuse. Recycle.

Vision and imagination instill in us a reason to get up in the morning. It kindles the spark of curiosity and opens doors, minds, and hearts. If you were stranded on an island in the middle of the ocean, wouldn’t you find new and inventive ways to find food and stay alive? That’s we are talking about here.

Survival of our well-being, our health and our reason for being. Our purpose and doing our part in our relationships, families, and communities rely on us staying alert and involved and aware.

Depression takes hold and pulls us down and works at keeping us there. It is anger turned inwards. It has the strength of gravity and more. It fills us with lead and shuts us down and closes us off from ourselves and everything else.

So, if we can look for the twinkle of hope, the ray of sunshine, the silver lining in the dark cloud whilst we muddle through the muck and the mire and vault out of the mundane ditch we may find ourselves slipping into and look at everything as if new for the first time. Maybe just maybe we can have green grass and high times forever.



AM I….

Any real change one hopes to make to one-self must start with Self-Inquiry. Every tradition religion or philosophy will start by expressing the importance of knowing oneself, and to be true to the SELF.

But, what and who is the self? To me, the Self is not a collection of experiences, traits, or behaviors, likes or dislikes, but the consciousness that witnesses all of that.

So, there is the Me that has a lifetime of experiences, memories, thoughts, feelings and moments. Persona is the perceived identity of a person, that of an actor, or character in fiction. C.G. Jung used it to mean the “Mask” or façade that which represents the exterior that satisfies a given situation, environment or event.

The Self then is our interior landscape. To me the degree that I am free, healthy, or liberated from the influence of the outside world is the distance or the relationship of the Me that is communing with the world in the exterior via my sensory perception and the – I that is and will forever Be. Am I the watcher or the watched, the object or the subject? The more space I have between what I know to be the truth, or the Spark that illuminates this being, this body and the Me in the story, or movie playing on the screen of my perceived self and my part or role in the drama the healthier I have become.

The true self is a drop of consciousness in the ocean of the greater consciousness that is ever present and never changing while the drama of humankind is in full swing on the collective screen that is our shared identity that we believe to be our reality.




 The key to getting to the truth of the matter: Clarity. If you want to save a lot of time and anguish seek to focus on being completely clear on what you think, how you act, and what you communicate.

 Do not shade or bend the truth. Be forthright and true. I once had a boss tell me to say what I have to so that I can get what I want, yet to speak in the gray and do not commit to anything. I believe he was alluding to corporate speak. That is no way to communicate. How is one to garner merit or trust or respect when you manipulate and massage your words and intent?

 When you seek to create delusion with others you are deluding yourself. The worst lies and falsehoods are the ones we tell ourselves. In the public sphere and arena right now there are lies being told daily that eventually are being accepted as the truth. There are alternative facts. A new reality is taking shape where people do not know to believe.

 Do not judge what you believe to be the truth or delusion, but practice discernment. Listen to what you hear. Watch body language. Moreover, trust your gut. Intuitively we know what is true. Be clear about being clear. Know the truth. Speak it. Live it. Be it.

Clear the fog of divisiveness from your conversations. Gossip withers and pollutes the soul and dulls the spirit. Be a light shining in the darkness and seek the truth at all cost regardless of the outcome.

The phantasm of hatred and fear preys on the innocent and longs to discredit, shame and dishearten those who would shine a light on that which is false. Be strong of heart and speak your truth.

Love & Courage

Jeff Turnbull    

Enlightenment – In Three Easy Payments.

  1. Pay attention to your thoughts.  Right thinking is an easy thing to talk about, but a difficult thing to at times to maintain.  As much as we try to think happy, pleasant thoughts, our mind wanders.  We start to question and judge.  Instead of assessing the situation, and giving benefits of doubt, we jump, we even leap to conclusions.  If strive earnestly to cease to cherish our opinions, question our beliefs, and release our convictions, then perhaps we can see the world through the eyes of our child self.  Remember when we young we were so optimistic.  Pay attention to what matters – ask you’re self – are my thoughts helpful; are my thoughts kind, and lastly – are my thoughts the truth as I see it, and feel it.  Trust your gut.  It is the home of Heart Mind intelligence.


  1. Pay attention to your feelings, what is going on in your Heart. Besides being a muscle and a pump, it is our spiritual core.  If more people were in touch with their true feelings, and emotions perhaps the world would not be in the state it is now.  If your angry or hurt, you must pay attention to these feelings, be with them, again pay attention to your thinking about your feelings.  Take a breath, feel how your body is responding.  Do you feel your body tense, are your perspiring, do you want to take flight, or stay and fight.  Sit with these feelings, count to ten.  Access what it is that is making you feel this way.  Are there any memories surfacing?  Remember the impermanent nature of this moment and to the experience, thought, or action that is its trigger.  Let this moment rise like a wave and then let it pass, let it go.   Do this too with the wonderful, joyous moments.  Do not dwell in either state too long, pay attention to this moment.  Do not be averse to anything that life may bring you, or attached to any.  Enlightenment is within you, we just need to be like the calm sea to let it surface.


  1. Pay attention to your innate Intelligence, you know the sense that was given you, that we all have when we enter this world, but that we seem to lose when we grow older. It’s as if our sense of wonder gets bored and our curiosity gets focused on those things that pay our bills, and finds us a mate, the game, the Dow, our neighbor’s recyclables.  We stop seeing shapes in the clouds, and the beautiful, colorful sunsets.  We lose our way, we lose touch with nature, and hence with the nature of all things.  We live in the din of a data-driven world and a state of cognitive dissonance.  We think, or feel something about a cause, or state of affairs, but we do nothing.  Our divine intelligence the link between the Heart-Mind connections gets frayed and we become dulled and diluted to the moment and to the beauty of the trinity of awareness that is Thought, Feeling, and Intelligence.  It is very important that we energize and electrify this vital conduit between our thoughts and feelings to realize enlightenment, Nirvana… Or, we resign ourselves to the profane and mundane.  See the sacred nature in each other, and in all beings, in all of nature.  So that all beings may be free from suffering.

O Shanti Shanti Shanti





What do you do when you find out that your leader, mentor, boss, etc… have no moral center and his or her own interests supersede everything else. That includes everything from their thought, word, or deed. The veil has fallen the curtain pulled back and you see the person for who they are.

What if your yoga instructor is not aware of or interested in the philosophical origins of the discipline and is only in it for a hot body and the money? What then?

What happens when people lose credibility? When you catch them in a lie? Or worse they betray you and show you who they are? Maya Angelou told us to believe people when they show us their true self, their true nature.

How long do you accept the falsehoods, betrayals or manipulations? Really? How Long? We show people how we want to be treated by the way we show them how we respect ourselves to respect us and the way we believe in ourselves and the way we love ourselves. Otherwise, the people who do not love and respect themselves will treat us the way they think we should be treated. or, even worse, they do not care.

Truth is everything. Not yours or mine or the way we see and filter our experiences but the collective truth. Universal truths are never wrong. We all want to be loved for who we are, and be accepted and included for who we are. We know that most people will smile back when smiled at. We know that only Love will cure hate. We know that if a problem exists we must address it.

In the Spirit of Truth, I will if you will, Speak it, Live it, and Be it; no matter the circumstances or the outcome, so help me I. Be divinity incarnate and choose the sovereignty of self and manifest truth in all your encounters.