And, the perils of self-pity.
BY: JEFF TURNBULL
If we allow ourselves to get run down and deplete our vital life force we feel empty. We are more prone to lose confidence and doubt our resolve. I know this for a fact because when I am feeling run down, overtired, or even just hungry, I want to dump everything and change direction.
When this happens, it is just a hop and skip and jump away from worrying about the future. I lose focus and direction. I get stressed and I start to be concerned that I will never get anything done.
Full catastrophe mode is not far behind and a sense of hopelessness may enter the picture and obscure any thought of growth, grit, gains or glory. Then it is just a stone’s throw away from self-pity. A lapse in confidence and we see ourselves circling the drain into oblivion.
That is why mindset and mindfulness and vigilance is so important. Anxiety is that place or space between freedom and responsibility. If we think about the future we end up regretting the past. It’s a vicious circle, and as we cycle through these fruitless exercises we run through our reserves of willpower and resilience.
If can stay present and realize we have the freedom we desire at any given moment via free will to choose how we think, feel and will what we desire. We must remember that the multiplicity of environments and people and experiences that we encounter each day will challenge us and will demand that we rise to meet them.
It is up to us to remain full of positive thoughts about the now and not to feel overwhelmed and to show up not give up when we feel our tank start to empty. We need to practice self-care because if we don’t take care of our own needs and energy we cannot bring the light, love, and brilliance to our family, friends and team members.
Recently, I am letting the Universe take the wheel. I don’t pull or push too hard and I yield if the energy is not right and I trust my intuition and I practice gratitude even for the struggle and forgive myself daily for my shortcomings and I constantly check my attitude to see if it needs adjusting.
I work to stay energized and free of judgment and keep my mind, heart, and self-open to all possibilities because I don’t want to be a depleted, hallow, whiny underachiever.