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WE VALUE WHAT WE UNDERSTAND.

 

SO, ASK ME A QUESTION. DO THE WORK.

Listen, I do not expect you to get me on the first try. That is why you have to put in the time. If you value the goal or outcome, we can work together, to achieve it.

Why are we so fast to judge or dismiss. I will tell you why. We do not have all the information. Or, enough to make a rational decision. So, we punt. We walk. We check out. We lack patience.  

We tend to value what we understand. We would prefer to work with, share time with, people we understand. The fact that there is so much derision in the country and world right now is because we can not see this fact.

We all want to be loved and accepted and valued. If we are not included. We are perceived as excluded. We all have more in common than not. A Consensus is a tapestry of a common thread. However, a lot can not see where we are connected.

Most of this is intentional. Our so-called leaders, the media, the entertainment industry find it easier to persuade us when we are not sure and we attach ourselves to those things that speak to our creature comforts. So, we get red in the face and blame the unknown. We lose ourselves in slights and reward it all with apathy.

It is easier to curse the darkness, as they say, that it is to get up off the couch and go to the breaker box. We need to be inquisitive, hungry, and keep learning. Complacency does not serve us. Not in the least. No action is a negative action. Not deciding is deciding to do nothing. And, bad things happen to good people when other good people do nothing.

Ask a question. Then listen. When sharing information with others, ask yourself – Is it relative? Is it kind? Is it true? Spend the emotional equality that it takes to be present. Be aware. Be thoughtful. Be engaged.

Life is truly short. We waste precious time and energy not being awake or aware. We must struggle if we must to try and understand everything that presents itself so that we can know what we do in fact value. Do you know what you value? What is your core principles? What guides and sustains you when things get tough?

Do you understand what you profess to know? Do you value what others do? If not, why not? If you work to understand something you can value the intent but not the message. If you can you know where you are coming from and hence work with others to a share imperative to create something for the common good. If we can work together and have all the information then we are moving toward progress and can, in turn, strive toward growth.

Jeff Turnbull

 

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MY PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY.

Harm no one. Always tell the truth. Offer a helping hand when I am able. Always do my best.

The above is my personal philosophy. I saw this online. A challenge to encapsulate your core beliefs in twenty-five words or less. I do not think I left anything out.

Of course, I could expand on it, but I would just be reiterating on the basic tenets that I stated. I am no eagle scout. But, I know some eagle scouts and they would never offer to get me a cup of coffee from Starbucks. That does not make them bad people, possibly frugal, or perhaps self-centered. Like the manager who routinely forgets to ask if their subordinates need a break or not.

I would posit if you cannot be self-aware, at least be aware of those who work hard and support you and make you look good.

But, most of us do not. We are worried about how we are perceived. We will take the credit. Cash the check. Step into the limelight and forget to thank those who made it all possible.

If you are in business, own, run, or are responsible for someone else’s livelihood, you might want to lift your head up, look around and be grateful that you have people who show up and give a damn.

You cannot do it alone. It took Jeff Bezos a while to realize this and so he increased the minimum wage at Amazon to $15.00 an hour. He either did it for the right reasons, that his people were worth it, or that his fortune would eventually take a hit. Either way, he did the right thing. I wonder what his personal philosophy is and can he extol it in 25 words or less.

Greed is not good. You cannot take it with you. You can only drive one car, wear one pair of shoes, at a time. Share, Be Kind, and do not be a jerk. It is just that easy.

JEFF TURNBULL

 

 

 

 

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ADAPT, EVOLVE OR DIE!

A TREATISE ON THE ART AND SCIENCE OF PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION.

Bipolar I Depressive. In my early thirties that was my current situation. Finally, a name for my pain. “It’s like diabetes.” They said. “You can treat it with medication and talk therapy.” They said. “It is manageable.” They said. “You will have it for Life.” They said. They also said that I had a 1 in 5 chance of ending my own life. That is a 20% likelihood that on any given day, I will pull my own plug. That shed a lot of light, on an infinite amount of darkness.
 
I can tell you from my personal experience. If you are mentally ill. If you struggle with depression, anxiety, addiction you must adapt to your environment. And, evolve from your situation or you will die. Before your time and before you know what hit you. Furthermore, if you deem yourself a stable genius the same applies. Depression will pull you down. Anxiety pushes you down. Addiction will burn you alive. Bipolar I Depressive will pull you apart. It will burn you alive. It will push you down. It will pull you down and drown you. It will smother you while you sleep. That is if are able to sleep or eat? It will compel you to do drugs. Spend the money you do not have. It will cause hypersexuality that leads you to make mistakes that you cannot undo. And, flights of fancy, moods swings, and temper tantrums, and so much more. Pain is pain. It is not a competition. I have been there, lived that.
 
After I was diagnosed and somewhat stabilized. I returned to my hometown to visit some friends and share my new found sobriety and good mental health. The responses I received surprised me. A few wished me well, and were happy about my discovery and commended me on taking the initiative to heal myself. Others made comments that quite took me off guard – “There’s a surprise.” Or “I could have told you that.” I was struggling with this demon. I was fighting for my life and these people who I believed to be my friends were being so obtuse about my affliction.
 
One went on to challenge me on the subjectivity of my feelings and emotional state. “What you think you feel more than me?” Again, this is not a competition. I did not know how to handle that question. I let it go.
 
So, along the way, I found a way to survive. Adapt and Evolve or perish, or Die. Adapting to every situation is a challenge. We can keep it to environments. Your interior, thoughts and feelings, those things within our domain of control. Adaption to the exterior environment or what I call – The World at Large.
 
We must evolve beyond our current situation. We must kill off the habits. The behaviors, desires, and inclinations that do not serve our greater good. Our survival and the quest to achieve and become the you that you long to be. In therapy, they said that my parents did the best they could with what they had to work with.
 
What a bunch of bunk. That is a belief not based in fact. Somewhat like faith. It is what we tell ourselves to help us get through the night. We can always do better, but that is a choice.
 
I can tell you that when I struggled with the bleak beast of depression. The suicidal tendencies made everything worse. It compounded my feeling of self-loathing, deep down I knew I could have done better, tried harder. This only made me sicker. Helping others can produce neurochemicals to help generate good health and well-being. Imagine what helping ourselves could produce. Helping ourselves so that we can do what we need to do to help others. We could in the process help heal ourselves so that we can help heal the world. But, unfortunately, we have blinders on and are in survival mode.
 
What if I asked for help from some of those friends who did not know I was struggling? Or moreover, those friends who were not surprised about my illness reached out a hand? Instead of throwing a drowning man an anchor ex-posts facto.
Either way, I have risen from the ashes from many close calls, and near misses. I had to stay alive so that I could find myself, heal myself, and do what I can to help others.
There are three phases of change or states if you will. You can move from one to the other if you stay in one too long – it becomes a state. 1. Healthy Change. 2. Non-Change. 3. Unhealthy Change.
 
Unhealthy Change is changing for change sake. Bored or lazy, lethargic, what have you? It is like sitting on the couch with the remote binge-watching Netflix. Or leveling up on your favorite video game. You are doing something, but not. I like to change my wallpaper on my devices. I will look up and notice a half-hour went by. Idleness in flux. It is taking the path of least resistance, going through the motions, phoning it in, or faking it until you make it. Wake Up! Do something real, even if it’s wrong. Burst your own bubble. Move beyond the membrane of your comfort zone. Take the red pill. Unplug. Take the scenic route and look up and breathe the fresh air of what might be.
 
Looking through the clinical lens of Bipolar I depression, unhealthy change is cycling. It may be weekly, monthly, yearly, and the most torturous – daily. It all depends on the individual. Imagine waking up in the morning feeling alive ready to slay the dragon and rescue the fair maiden? You greet the day with vital élan – the vital force of life. You have unbound energy, creativity drive, passion, and vigor. But, by the end of the day you are feeling defeated, discouraged, and suicidal. Can you imagine? That was my life for two decades. Haunted by the dark specter of suicide. But, yet, I carried on. Like that wayward son, and that Cinderella man.
 
Until… One day I was able to push through all the struggles. For the first time, I actually did what I had to. I did all the work I needed to, to almost make my dream of becoming a professional working musician come true. My two much younger bandmates had other designs. They took the summer off to go down the shore with their girlfriends. I could not blame them. They were young, I would have down the same thing if I were them. But, but, I had worked so hard. I saved money, toiled and labored and now – I was ready. Alas, it was not to be.
 
Where they were young and had their whole life ahead of them, I was trying to make it through the day and wake above ground.
 
And, I thought that would be my legacy. Not a canon of meaningful words and music but another poor wretch that hung himself in the attic of a friend’s house.
My friend’s house who I rented a room from asked me to leave, lest I do that.
 
I had three choices. Commit myself to a nearby hospital. Or become homeless and wait for another hospital’s day program to open up. Or call my parents who had moved away from the area and hope that like the prodigal son, I could return.
That day I called my parents. The next day I packed up the truck and moved away from there and headed towards the great wide open.
TOO BE CONTINUED…
JEFF TURNBULL
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THE LOVE OF POWER – IS ABSOLUTELY CORRUPT.

What is it about mankind that some Men cannot be Kind?

 
Yeah, you think you are right. You must have it your way. If not we’re doomed. So, it’s my way or the highway. The thinking that – “I alone can fix it!” is why we are where we are at.
 
 
I see men on social media dismissing the claims of an accuser because they think that person has an agenda. Well, she does. The Truth. She is standing up to tell her truth. She is there because she thinks she is right. She has the right to speak the truth. Her truth. It is a right under the 1st amendment.
 
 
That woman reporter who stood up to ask her question. You tried to belittle her, but she was the bigger man, yet you continued to diminish her. Yet, you looked like the idiot.
 
 
You don’t pay your taxes because you think you can get over. You are not fooling anyone. Being audited, are you? Yeah, we know you are not. You are blowing smoke. But, we smell what you are too. Some of us do not care. We look the other way because we want our bigger slice of the pie. We have told ourselves we deserve more too.
 
 
We have accepted the lie. His lie. Our lie. The Lie. We want power and he is going to give it to us. It is our turn. We are wealthy and powerful men and we deserve all that we can steal, or borrow, or take. The more we take, the more you get. Power is where it is where it is at.
 
 
Those self-made autocrats think they can get away with murder. They think they can shout someone on 5th avenue. I am confused that the same people that these drunken power hungry fools profess to help, they hurt the most. The supporters do not care about what and who they these petty tyrants steal and swindle. They treat them like rock stars. They chant and yell and hate.
 
 
Let us not full ourselves. They do not have our interest, best or otherwise at heart. If they have a heart, or conscious it is hard to discern. It is about power. Who is in power. Who is wielding this power? And how do we get it? Keep it. As they stuff the ballot boxes, drive down the turnout. Keep us ignorant and in debt so that we do not know the difference from what we have and what we need.
 
 
The love of power is corrupting. If it was a ring, you might find yourself a Gollum and doing whatever it takes to keep your precious power. So we lower ourselves to our base instincts to lie, cheat and kill to keep what we have as we scavenge for more.
 
 
The only true power is the power of love. Love of our true nature. Empathy, Compassion and living a thoughtful life that is fact-based. Living in Truth is accepting the uncomfortable facts when needed and doing what we know to be right. To change the unacceptable and make it right. If we make a mistake we need to take responsibility. If someone calls us out on our shortcomings we need to accept our part and do better and make amends.
 
 
The Truth and the Power of Love will advance the shared common-good into a better place and a better state of being.
 
JEFF TURNBULL
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DESIRABLE DIFFICULTIES, SISYPHUS & TWISTED TREES.

Sometimes, the harder the struggle, the greater the focus, the more meaningful the lesson.

Or, we are crushed beneath the wheel or stone of adversity.  What makes some people embrace their struggles and difficulties and succeed against great odds, and others fail and have their lives ruined never to be able to rise above the baseline of abject poverty and hardship?

I was reading Malcolm Gladwell’s recent book “David and Goliath”.  In it, he cites multiple examples of great adversities and how they are overcome.  The example that is most astonishing is dyslexia.  The expression adapts or dies really comes into play.  It is inspiring to think that people, when challenged, are able to adapt and make the most of a bad situation.

If a person cannot read and struggles all their life with an affliction that inhibits their basic practice of learning and communicating can find a way to navigate the rough waters of community, and not only get along but succeed the rest of us have a lot to learn.

Like Sisyphus who pushes the same rock up the same hill day after day after finds a way to cope with his trials.  Perhaps he looks at it as his daily cardio workout, perhaps he pushes that boulder up the hill in anticipation of the beautiful sunset and the leisurely walk down the hill, and does it all again, again for the Desirable Difficulties.

Desirable Difficulties are welcomed challenges that test us and call upon our inner strength, mental fortitude, physical stamina, or our creative, critical thinking abilities.  The person with dyslexia in the book I find most intriguing is the man who learns to listen better and develop his memory and becomes a world class attorney.  That which did not kill him made him stronger.

Like the small sapling that struggles to become the mighty oak that grows up in the shadow of truly mighty oaks has to adapt to reach for the sunlight, we must find ways to work with what we have and reach for the sky.  The small sapling may have to bend and contort, but the ineffability of success and survival requires that we find a way to be the best that we can be under any and all circumstances.

JEFF TURNBULL

 

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APPLYING THE SCIENTIFIC – AS A BEST PRACTICE.

I wish corporate retail instead of Reacting to Business, or (Over) Reacting to business every Wednesday would stop changing prices and moving things around and would instead come up with a margin they can live with and make a commitment to their employees (their most valuable asset) and their customers (their least leveraged investment) and really focus on what is important – moving some units…

Really, you talk about the importance of offering excellent customer service; however, your actions don’t really reflect this at all. You spend a colossal amount of time (usable hours) playing with prices. Artificially manipulating the price point to reflect what you want the customer to spend on your product. Set it and forget it… and spend the best of your time and resources expressing and demonstrating the value and quality of your product or service. Playing games with prices is at best disingenuous.

So why not – Cross the Rubicon of Conventional Thinking – and Apply the Scientific Method to the way you do business.
• Ask a Question
• Do Background Research
• Construct a Hypothesis
• Test Your Hypothesis by Doing an Experiment
• Analyze Your Data and Draw a Conclusion
• Communicate Your Results

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It can be applied to any situation – a new product line, marketing, hiring practices, etc… I would recommend it to anyone, business, civic organization, and government. I have adopted it as a practice in my personal life and it has really made a significant change in how I make a decision regarding all facets of my life.

Instead of reacting I can form a reasonable action plan and actually achieve results.

Jeff Turnbull

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THE HOW – OF CHANGE.

 

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IF YOU DON’T SEE YOUR WORLD, CREATE IT!

MY NAME IS – JEFF TURNBULL,

I am a creative and analytical person. I felt the tug this way and that. I am a humanist and want to help my fellow citizen, but I also want a productive sustainable life. I realized I can be a Badass and help people too. So, I am going to create wealth to be sustainable and feel enriched at the same time. These two aspects need not be mutually exclusive. I have a humanist approach to life and business. The more I make the more I can bring value to Humanity. 🕊️

The reason for my writing to you is that I would like to offer my services. If your business has grown and after all your blood, sweat, tears, and hard work it has plateaued and you know that you have more to offer or more market share that is attainable but need help. I AM HERE TO HELP! I have worked in numerous industries in different markets at many levels; from an Executive position as a Marketing Coordinator to an associate on the Sales Floor. Along the way, I learned that Communication is everything. When it breaks down we are done. Getting the word out there and keeping it out there changes day to day with all the technology. Some of us get left behind or we miss the curve. I am a storyteller. There are many ways to tell your story and many platforms. I can help.

JEFF TURNBULL

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THE JOURNEY BEGINS – NOW

They say that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. What they don’t tell you, is that you have to take that same step over and over and over again until you get where you are going.

You really don’t need to know exactly where you are going or how to get there but you do need to know or feel, what it looks like and how you will feel when you arrive. 

We all want better. However, we seem to chase our tails around and around get frustrated abandon hope and either give up, put a pin in it, or put it on the back burner. There is no heat on the back burner. 

I used to catch fire then burn out. Blow on the embers after a time and then start over. I lost steam. Forgot where I was. And, could not remember where I archived files, forgot passwords, etc..

The Art of Creation is to catch fire, stay on fire, and not burn out. Moderation is key. The Turtle was on to something. Slow, but steady wins the race and gets us to the finish line.

I am here to help! If you need assistance getting that much overdue product or project to completion. 

Keep the wind at your back and the sun in your face, to get it done, and to reach New Heights and Milestones. 

JEFF TURNBULL

 

 

 

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I AM HERE TO HELP!

My Mantra has always been – I am here to Help! I think we all do better when we have someone, that we can connect with to share insights with and to ask questions and to ask for help and assistance. Someone with the experience, know-how, and a unique objective and perspective.

Been there done that! Sometimes, most of the time, it is what not to do, then what to do that moves us forward and allows us to accomplish our mission.

Mine is to serve you..

JEFF TURNBULL